Emotion Coaching: Developing Emotional Intelligence Stage 5

Development of emotional intelligence is essential for success in all kinds of relationships. This blog series will outline the stages of emotional intelligence development. This post focuses on stage five, Emotion Coaching.

Stages to Emotional Intelligence Development

  1. Self-Awareness: Acknowledging and coming to terms with personal strengths, weaknesses, bias and attitudes
  2. Personal Emotional Regulation: Learning to self sooth and mindful of feelings
  3. Self-Motivation: Internal locus of control and desire to grow
  4. Relationship Management: Soft Skills
  5. Emotion Coaching: Coach your team to and others on these skills
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Step 5: Emotion Coaching

Learning to become an emotion coach is an important EI capability.

Role of the Emotion Coach

  • An assessment of where the learner is now
  • Identification of where the learner wants to get to
  • Planning how to get there
  • Feedback on results
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An EI coach needs to know:

  • How to manage the relationship
  • How people respond to change
  • How people learn
  • How to apply different psychological models
  • How to identify patterns in conflict

E-coaches help others to:

  • Develop their emotional capabilities
  • Resolve differences
  • Solve problems
  • Communicate effectively
  • Become motivated

Emotion Coaching in Action

An EI coach needs to:

  • Actively listen
  • Influence, persuade and challenge
  • Engage in problem-solving
  • Help the learner to set goals
  • Help the learner to put together an Action Plan

Coaching behaviors

  • Act as an EI role model
  • Behave in a non-judgemental tone
  • Maintain confidentiality
  • Be committed to you own personal and on-going development
  • Continually seek to build learner’s confidence and self-esteem

Emotional Coach Qualities

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