Anger is a normal part of the human emotional experience. However, sometimes how we manage our anger can be destructive. Most people learn how to deal with anger as a normal part of growing up based. Our parents model and teach us these tools. Unfortunately not all people, were modeled or taught healthy anger management tools. Without good emotional regulation tools, anger can become overwhelming.
Own Your Anger
The first important step in managing your emotions, is recognizing that you need some in the first place. This is often the hardest step in anger management recovery. Shame and guilt are negative feelings that are often associated with poor emotion management. It is important not to get caught up in these feelings. Shame can a huge barrier to anger recovery. Accepting personal responsibility and taking steps towards recovery is the best solution to preventing further pain.
Think carefully about your life.
- Do you often shout at and hurt the ones you love the most?
- Do your loved ones try to avoid you, maybe leaving the room whenever you enter or going to their bedrooms when you get in from work?
- Have you had problems at work because you were unable to control your emotions?
- Have you ever had the police involved in your anger management?
If any of these situations sound familiar, then the chances are that you do have an emotional regulation problem.
Quick And Dirty Tools
There are a number of techniques available which can help you to take control control your frustration. Emotion management can be as simple as acknowledging the problem and mastering some simple emotional regulation techniques. Some of these tools include counting until calm, squeezing ice in your fists and exercise. However, in more severe cases it will be necessary to attend therapy, hire an emotion coach, or attend psycho-educational workshops.
The Next Step Is Yours
If you have a problem, then you owe it to yourself and to your loved ones to seek help. Getting help for your anger management challenges can lead to a much happier life for both you and your family.