Caring for Aging Narcissistic Parent and the Power of Letting Go

Posted on December 28, 2017 by Therapist Nicki

Are you finding yourself perplexed by having to care of an aging narcissistic parent? Are you being asked to care for the emotions of a parent who never cared about your emotions? Are you struggling with how to let go of the past while having to deal with an aging narcissistic parent?

My father has always been someone who has been blind to his own narcissism. As a younger man who believed he was in control of his wife, children, money, health, and life, he was quick-tempered and showed little empathy for his children’s emotions. Today, as he faces the winter of his life, he has begun to fill with great despair and as a result, he expects his children to be able to offer him compassion he never had for us.

I wanted to encourage those of you who, like me, are facing having to care for elderly, narcissistic parents, who require tremendous empathy, in spite of them never having empathy for you–their child. It is quite the challenge to care for a parent who seemed to care little for how you felt and who did not know how to show up when you needed them to in your life.

As my father ages and his life presents with changes he cannot control, he fills with more and more despair. His mind is full of regrets and he no longer has the confidence to discard us the way he once did. Today, he needs us to take care of him, and if we don’t, my siblings and I are not sure what he may be capable of.

I am learning to LET GO of what I cannot control and I hope this video helps you let go too…

Children of narcissistic parents, who are now suffering from codependency symptoms, may be struggling to learn how to love themselves after narcissistic abuse.  Narcissists tend to attract people pleasers, or codependent personalities.  Because codependents are eager to please, because they seek outside validation, they are easy targets for narcissistic lovers, and friends. 

It is not easy to learn how to love yourself after narcissistic abuse, but with the right codependency recovery tools, it is possible.  It is even possible to find love after codependency.

Lisa A. Romano is a world-renowned Certified Life Coach and bestselling author who specializes in codependency, narcissistic abuse, the law of attraction, and mind shift training.

Her books are;
The Road Back To Me
My Road Beyond The Codependent Divorce
Codependent Now What? It’s Not You-It’s Your Programming
Loving the Self Affirmations 1 & 2
Quantum Tools To Help You Heal Your Life Now

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